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Essential rules for loving someone

tcr! · Aug 22, 2017 at 8:15 am

Audio (MP3): 20170822 - Essentials rules for loving someone

  1. If someone loves you then love them back.
    Don’t think about it.
  2. If someone loves you then pay attention to what they do.
    Often times they’re telling you, without words, that they do.
  3. If someone loves you then sometimes they won’t tell you.
    That’s okay. Tell them that you love them anyway.
  4. If someone loves you then don’t wonder if they do.
    Questions on your side can lead to questions on their side.
  5. If someone loves you then comprehend this as an utmost responsibility.
  6. If you love someone then love them first.
    Tell them now.
  7. If you love someone then tell others that you do.
    You’ll realize just how much.
  8. If you love someone then find another reason to.
    Better: find two.
  9. If you love someone then stay in that moment.
    Don’t go anywhere else.
  10. If you love someone and haven’t told them in a while then what are you waiting for?
  11. If you love someone but are having a hard time then ask god what they think.

#protip #relationships #diariespodcast

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tcr! diaries podcast now available

tcr! · Aug 21, 2017 at 2:37 pm

Audio (MP3): 20170821 - tcr diaries podcast now available

tcr diaries podcast

So this is a thing now. Keep your expectations low. I mean like really low. I don’t know if it’ll be anything more than just an audio version of a written piece. We’ll see how it goes. Maybe I’ll ad-lib now and then. Maybe I’ll play the piano. At this point I’m just trying to get used to the sound of my own damn voice. 😘

And finally, you can also listen right on the site with the #diariespodcast hashtag.

There’ll be an audio version toward the bottom of each article.

Anyways, on with the show…

#diariespodcast

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Eclipse 2017 — best photos I got

tcr! · Aug 21, 2017 at 1:26 pm

Wasn’t as magical overall as I’d hoped. Even more so being at work with the rest of the worker bees.

Eclipse 2017 1 Eclipse 2017 2

Eclipse 2017 3

And then the clouds totally took over at 1:18pm.

#photos #eclipses

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Have you ever bought a ticket?

tcr! · Aug 21, 2017 at 12:24 pm

Have you ever bought a ticket for a show that you won’t be able to go to…just so you can have the ticket?

Me either… until now.

21, No, no, no, no

I’ve always wanted to go to Brooklyn.

#tickets

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Aug 21st, 2017 at 12:04:03 pm

tcr! · Aug 21, 2017 at 12:04 pm

Aug 21st 2017 weather

I doubt if there’ll be much eclipse goodness in our area 😕

#weather #eclipses

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Aug 21st, 2017 at 8:14:28 am

tcr! · Aug 21, 2017 at 8:14 am

You’d think I’d know how to spell “explicit” … 🙄

#thestruggleisreal

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Just the same as me

tcr! · Aug 20, 2017 at 11:40 pm

Audio (MP3): 20170820 - Just the same as me

Bike at the ballfield

When I’m behaving badly it’s because I’m scared or my feelings are hurt or I’m upset or whatever. It’s not something I just do. There’s a reason there. And I’ve always appreciated it when other people have let me off the hook when I was acting badly. So long as I didn’t act too bad or push it too far.

With that said when other people are behaving badly I can make a fairly safe assumption that they’re acting that way because they’re hurt or sad or upset. For one reason or another, just the same as me. I would do well to take a step back and remember how I’ve felt when I’m hurt and then think, “they could be feeling the very same.” And I can show that same kind of love and tolerance towards them that others have shown me.

Everybody struggles in life. Everybody has shit they’re going through and everybody acts badly. I don’t have a dysfunction monopoly.

So. This is all easy for me to say when I’m not in the middle of an argument with someone. But in those times I can always pause and ask for help because I don’t do well in those heated moments. My mouth flies open and before I even know it I’m firing off angry texts or lashing out with a forked tongue.

Just taking a minute to calm down, to get my feelings back to normal — that always works. I’m too prone for a knee-jerk response and pausing has been one of my go-to reactions since getting sober again.[1]

In related news… The other night I was driving down the street in my neighborhood, going maybe three or four miles an hour over the speed limit. Five at most. Not incredibly fast because it’s my neighborhood and I have Maggie and my neighbors have kids, too. But I wasn’t doddling either. And then there was this dude standing maybe two feet into the street by his parked car. Holding his baby. In the dark. I barely saw them and only did because the streetlight kind of brought them out of the shadows. And so then as I was driving by the guy yells, “SLOOW DOOWN.”

Instantly and immediately I was kind of pissed like, “Go fuck yourself. The fuck are you doing standing in the street holding your kid?”

Whatever. 🙄

Okay, so flash forward a couple days later and now I’m thinking that wasn’t the best thing that I could’ve said or thought or felt. Ya, I probably could’ve been driving slower, driving the speed limit but it’s not like I was drag racing or something.

But once again the thing that bugs me is that this scene has flashed before my eyes a couple times since then.[2] I don’t really feel like I did anything wrong but it keeps flashing none the less. I think maybe because there were too many times when I didn’t say something and I could have. And I should have.

So when things happen where I feel like that I am in the right and don’t say anything, well those things get on my nerves. It’s like I’ve got a whole backlog of them screaming to get out. It’s not like I’m running around with a headful of hate or anything but the feelings just don’t go away after I’ve felt and let them go. There obviously hasn’t been closure yet.

Kind of bothers me that I just can’t be confident enough to know that I didn’t do anything wrong. And not only that but more importantly it also bugs me that I’m not so spiritual to honestly look at his side of it. Think to myself how that guy must’ve felt, standing by his car with his newborn and here I come roaring down the street faster than I should’ve considering the circumstances. And ya, I probably could and should pay more attention to what other people are feeling. What’s going on in their lives.

I wish I could be more loving in general, more of the time than I already am. Sometimes it’s hard to with the world we live[3] in but I’ll never ever go wrong or feel bad for being a better person.

#advancedsoul #diariespodcast


  1. Keep in mind, sometimes it is appropriate to be inappropriate. Let the universe be your guide when you rage outrage.

  2. I’m sure I’ve written of similar before. In fact I know I have.

  3. Chances are that guy was just being an ass because he was “right.”

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Haunted Halloween Flea Market and Chicago Pop Culture Convention - 2017

tcr! · Aug 20, 2017 at 10:26 am

If you missed last night’s All Night Flea Market you’re in luck because there’s two more events coming up that won’t disappoint.


Haunted Halloween Flea Market flier

Haunted Halloween Flea Market

October 21, 2017 - 3pm to Midnight
DuPage County Fairgrounds
2015 Manchester Rd, Wheaton, IL 60187

Update Oct 21: We went, check out the photo gallery →


Chicago Pop Culture Convention flier

Chicago Pop Culture Convention

November 25, 2017 - 9am to 6pm
November 26, 2017 - 9am to 3pm
Pheasant Run Mega Centers
4051 E. Main St, St. Charles, IL 60187


#photos #allnightfleamarket

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Zurko’s mannequins at Wheaton’s All Night Flea Market

tcr! · Aug 19, 2017 at 9:56 pm

Zurkos mannequins Anna the half mannequin Anna the half mannequin note

Can’t go wrong with mannequins.

World Famous Wheaton Illinois All Night Flea Market

August 19, 2017 - 3pm to 3am
DuPage County Fairgrounds
2015 Manchester Rd, Wheaton, IL 60187

#photos #mannequins #allnightfleamarket

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GI Joe posing at Wheaton’s All Night Flea Market

tcr! · Aug 19, 2017 at 8:56 pm

GI Joe without pants posing blue glass heads

Altrusian from Land of the Lost
“…it was not the presence of hate that doomed the Altrusians, but rather the absence of compassion.”

World Famous Wheaton Illinois All Night Flea Market

August 19, 2017 - 3pm to 3am
DuPage County Fairgrounds
2015 Manchester Rd, Wheaton, IL 60187

#photos #allnightfleamarket

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