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Feb 8th, 2020 at 11:29:11 am

tcr! · Feb 8, 2020 at 11:29 am

Daiseys for July 15th, 2009

God, flood me with love. So it spills out onto everything I touch.

#protip #advancedsoul #photos #flowers

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Be as free.

tcr! · Jan 22, 2020 at 11:02 pm

No judgment, no shame, no awkwardness. No preconceived notions of how things are supposed to be.

No deadlines, no errands, no lists, no taxes. No pollutions, no dilutions. Unadulterated in the finest sense.

We’ll never be as free as we were when we were kids.

#advancedsoul

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debbie · Jan 23, 2020 at 8:57 am

May I share this

tcr! tcr! · Jan 23, 2020 at 10:31 am

Absolutely!

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Momma J Momma J · Jan 23, 2020 at 11:01 am

Truth!

tcr! tcr! · Jan 23, 2020 at 8:31 pm

Yep 🥁

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Dano was here

tcr! · Aug 14, 2019 at 2:36 pm

Dano was here

Dano’s one of the nicest, most giving, hardest working dude I know. And he’s fun to be around. 😎

#photos #advancedsoul

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CVD · Aug 14, 2019 at 6:45 pm

Sentiment shared

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Dano · Aug 14, 2019 at 9:44 pm

Thanks man, means a lot. You’re a great friend.

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Pelletier · Aug 15, 2019 at 3:32 pm

That’s on the marketing side of the chalkboard, right?

tcr! tcr! · Aug 15, 2019 at 5:46 pm

It’s actually my bathroom wall. Do what you must with that information.

Pelletier · Aug 15, 2019 at 5:46 pm

O… M… G………. hehehehehehe

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Aunt Libby Q · Sep 1, 2019 at 12:22 am

ditto

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Billie Joe Armstrong lets young dude play his guitar on stage

tcr! · Jul 8, 2019 at 11:50 am

This almost made me cry.

And fuck the earplugs. “We want it loud.” .. 🎸

#advancedsoul #musicvideos #greenday

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A coneflower for Sunday

tcr! · Jun 30, 2019 at 8:56 am

A coneflower for Sunday

It’s before 9am on a Sunday morning and I’m already sweating my balls off trying to capture the wonder of this coneflower.

Due to the hot and humid weather conditions there will be no uplifting or spiritual message attached.

Happy sweaty Sunday, peeps!

#photos #flowers #advancedsoul #weather

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Kelly K · Jun 30, 2019 at 2:01 pm

It was rough out there! I took a dog for a walk & wasn’t sure either of us would get home! And we didn’t go far! It was before 9am too. Maybe this insane storm will cool it off a bit.

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Keep living, peeps

tcr! · Jun 21, 2019 at 9:34 am

Day before yesterday I posted

It seems as if there are almost too many things that we’ll never get over.

We just learn to live with them.

…and I’ve been thinking lots about that whole topic ever since.

Some of you may know this story and some may not.

I was married for a brief era in the mid 90s. My wife at the time was pregnant and she carried our baby the full nine months. When she was due we rushed to the hospital and then something went horribly wrong.

They took Kathy to another room and had me and her family over in some waiting area. I could hear the baby crying and crying. Medical staff was running back-and-forth. A lot of commotion for sure. And then it was over. The baby died 15 minutes or so after she was born.

The loss of a child, the unexpected death of a loved one, traumatic physical injury, those types of pains are things we never get over. They just become part of who we are. Our life stories shape us, define us. We are who we are because of what’s happened while we’ve been alive.

Every time I hear a story about a child dying it almost always makes me sad. It pulls at my heart strings because I can relate. I think about being in that hospital with Kathy in the middle of nowhere Iowa and the emotional earthquake that changed everything. And the aftershocks are still with me not because I haven’t prayed for acceptance or processed my grief. It’s because it’s part of my story now. There’s no getting over it. There was no quick solution for dealing with the flood of feelings that came afterward.

In related news I read once that our parents’ memories can be passed to us genetically. Not like vivid, detailed recollections but more subliminal feelings, maybe subtle intuitions. When I read the article I thought, “fuck… our experiences are literally fused into our DNA.”

My feelings of loss can even resurface unexpectedly when I’m having a great moment with Maggie. I always wanted to be a dad and my first chance was taken away from me. Abruptly. Am I going to get over that? No. Don’t ever ask someone to. Pain of that magnitude will stop when it’s done working you over. My part is just to process and carry on.

Sometimes life works out how we want and sometimes it doesn’t. But it’s never about the outcome. It’s about the experience. It’s the shifts in our soul that offer to make us bigger people. We learn how to love and support each other.

When we look back over our lifetimes they’ll be overflowing with memories. Some good, some great and some bad, and others horrible. That sudden death helped make me be the best dad that I can be for Maggie. I know that it has.

Maggie's Father's Day inscription

Don’t be quick to discard life defining moments. We need those experiences to build better lives in the here and now.

Keep living, peeps. Keep loving. No matter what. ❤️

#photos #maggie #advancedsoul #theleftovers

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tcr! tcr! · Jun 21, 2019 at 9:42 am

The other night Sara and I were watching The Leftovers, season 3 episode 4. Kevin says to Nora something along the lines of getting over her lost kids. And then last night we watched episode 6 and Kevin and his ex-wife Laurie were sharing memories of when they were married.

If you haven’t watched The Leftovers, you’re missing out.

pynn · Jun 21, 2019 at 4:10 pm

It’s the best show I’ve seen

tcr! tcr! · Jun 21, 2019 at 5:44 pm

Yep, I absolutely love it. Maybe it’s because I felt like I was losing my mind more than once. And then the Pixies playing over and over again, Where is my mind? 😊

pynn · Jun 21, 2019 at 5:54 pm

Truly the most sophisticated and insightful treatment of grief, loss, and identity ever to appear on the small screen.

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elaineorr · Jun 21, 2019 at 11:07 am

Hugs. Thanks for sharing.

tcr! tcr! · Jun 21, 2019 at 5:46 pm

You are most welcome! Thanks for reading. And for the hug!

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Irene · Jun 23, 2019 at 8:12 am

So very very sorry for your loss! Too many losses in our lives… You are such a beautiful person inside and out and have done a terrific job making Maggie beautiful inside and out! 🤗❤️

tcr! tcr! · Jun 23, 2019 at 8:54 am

Thank you so much!

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A flock of Jonathans

tcr! · Jun 18, 2019 at 4:40 pm

Unfurl your wings and soar mighty and proud!

A flock of Jonathans A flock of Jonathans 2

#photos #advancedsoul #JLS

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angeline35 angeline35 · Jun 18, 2019 at 7:48 pm

glad you like it :)

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Let the cosmos take hold

tcr! · May 9, 2019 at 8:29 am

Budding chives

Do you ever wrestle with something for months on end?

Never making any ground, toiling away in frustration?

Knowing full well what the spiritual solution is but not being able to incorporate?

And then wake up one morning after a restless night with a feeling that something finally clicked?

And then from the bottom of your soul shout FREEDOM in your best Mel Gibson?

I hope so because it’s a beautiful thing.

Healing is a process. It really is.

And often times I can’t decide how I want to be. I just have to let go and let the cosmos take hold.

#photos #advancedsoul

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oscuroluna · May 9, 2019 at 12:54 pm

Absolutely! And funny enough, sometimes the things I wrestle with are things that I thought were ‘done away’ with in the past but somehow resurface, and for good reason! Some of the lessons and things I wrestle with might have multiple parts for multiple times, but each time I come out of it with a new understanding (including the ‘why’ of it being something I struggle with in the first place).

tcr! tcr! · May 10, 2019 at 7:36 am

Yes! I’ve had more than one struggle reappear because it hadn’t been put completely to bed just yet.

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fishtankbabe · May 9, 2019 at 1:16 pm

I wish this would happen to me. 😞

tcr! tcr! · May 10, 2019 at 7:25 am

It will!

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100 percent decent

tcr! · May 2, 2019 at 9:10 am

Jesus peace statue Blue and black man

You guys remember when Bill and Ted said, “be excellent to each other.”

I loved that line and that movie but being excellent all the time is hard. Like I’m driving and some fuckwad cuts me off, and then comes to a near complete stop when turning right. Excellence is the about the last thing in my fingertips.

Put them in the iron maiden

You guys know about washing machines and when they agitate clothes. I can feel a similar emotional agitation.

But then one time early in the morning while Sara was asleep I read something most triumphant in her Pema pocket book:

be 100 percent decent

After reading her words I felt a momentary peaceful release. We don’t have to be heroes. We don’t have to be Lincoln or Socrates. We only need to be decent in life.

It’s easy for me to hold myself to high standards and then end up disappointed when I fall short.

I can be decent though.

Most of the time.

PS- the photos are from Sara and I’s rental when we were in Louisville at the end of March. The statue and the painting were both romantically in the bedroom. They kinda/sorta go with this post.

#photos #advancedsoul

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tam.the.terrible · May 2, 2019 at 11:38 am

Put them in the Iron Maiden lol

tcr! tcr! · May 2, 2019 at 1:46 pm

One of the best lines ever 😊

tam.the.terrible · May 2, 2019 at 2:29 pm

Indeed!

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Back to regular life

tcr! · Apr 19, 2019 at 9:56 am

Audio (MP3): 20190419 - Back to regular life

Do you know what I really hate?

When somebody is being over-the-top nice after they’ve fucked something up.

Do you know what I really like?

When someone offers up a sincere apology and then gets on with the day.

Own it. Regret it. Forget it.

Take five minutes, have a real conversation, and then go back to regular life.

If I don’t acknowledge I can come across like an unsympathetic magician. Trying to trick you into paying attention to my magic rabbit and hat. All the while my other hand is holding a bloody knife. I’m not fooling anyone.

And then if I’m dancing around like an out-of-the-ordinary, out-of-control ballerina with an obviously fabricated sugary song and dance, it only makes whatever transgression worse. It prolongs the distress.

Human alien hybrid riding pegasus

Elaine said to me seven years ago, “…and don’t grovel.”

I get “wanting to make it better” with flowers from up my sleeve and I’m sure I’ve tried to pull rosy ruses myself. But keep it to a minimum. Otherwise it’s a black reminder. The fuck up lingers like a red rubber band, stretching the hurt out for way longer than it needs to.

Humility. Brevity. Authenticity. I won’t go wrong with these.

#relationships #advancedsoul #diariespodcast

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Momma J Momma J · Apr 19, 2019 at 11:08 am

Great philosophy

tcr! tcr! · Apr 20, 2019 at 12:47 pm

Learned the hard way 😉

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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · Apr 19, 2019 at 4:21 pm

😎

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