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The notion that I can quit

tcr! · 2 days ago

Flowers with raindrops

My favorite Freakonomomics[1] podcasts is from a few years back. It’s beautifying titled, The Upside of Quitting.

It’s also the only podcast I’ve listened to more than twice. The episode is one of those things that changed everything. It’s become part of my spiritual condition. The notion that I can quit has become part of who I am.

Winners never quit.

That’s all fine and good if we play football but not if we’re dying inside because our life is horrible.

- If we’re in a relationship where we feel suffocated or maybe where we feel lonely, we need to quit. Get out of it. Things aren’t going to change or get any better just because we’re sad.

- If we go to a job every morning and feel miserable, we need to quit. Desperately pleading to the almighty or flat out ignoring the crisis won’t make our misery stop. It’ll be on our minds tomorrow. Before we even get to work.

- If mowing our yard is simply dreadful, we need to quit cutting the grass and get somebody else to do it. Spending a Saturday with yardwork nagging at our soul will only end up ruining our whole weekend.

Suffering isn’t a badge of honor or something to be proud of. It’s bullshit. And we won’t sleep any better until we quit believing that anything but first place will do.

There’s something to be said for loyalty and persistence for sure but quitting when the situation demands it is something that’s often overlooked or ignored altogether. Sometimes it’s easier to just stay stuck than revolt. But staying stuck is not something we’ll ever want to tell our grandkids about. Wouldn’t it be grand to tell them the story of the great revolution that made the world magical again?

Quitting is decisive and final.

It’s not fruity, metaphysical, or abstract. It’s concrete and effective. We feel release when we quit. All the hurt will stop.

Sometimes it takes time to quit, especially when we’re in the middle of something big or entangled in something painful. When I stopped drinking it took months.[2] Getting ready and absolutely wanting to quit was most of the battle.

The road we walk is ours. Our future is up to us and not our partner, not our boss, and not the dandelions. We don’t have to be along for just their ride.

And we have to firmly believe that we deserve nice things as well. I’m telling you now that you do. The moon and the stars are all hanging in the sky just for you.

#photos #flowers #protip #freakonomics


  1. Not familiar with Freakonomics? Don’t worry, it’s hosted by Steven D. Levitt, who is… “not a typical economist. He is a much-heralded scholar who studies the riddles of everyday life—from cheating and crime to sports and child-rearing—and whose conclusions turn the conventional wisdom on its head.” Find it on your local NPR station.

  2. I started wanting to quit drinking in June 2011. Needed to in August. Should have in December. And finally did in February.

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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

Very cool.

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

Thankies 😊

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

Unreasonable Happiness is your birth right. It’s been credited to me but I heard it somewhere. Sitting with others of my ilk.

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

I often hear you say that in my head 😊

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JJ · 2 days ago

Thanks for the tip… look forward to listening to on my a.m. drive.

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

Let me know what you think.

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Botsford · 2 days ago

Boy what we do to quit, some of the hardest decisions I have ever made was just that!!! After all the agony the relief is so worth those good choices! Thanks for the reminder 😊

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

Yep!

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barberblademaiden · 2 days ago

Find the NPR This American Life episode about the New York super in the 70s. It’s the wildest thing I’ve ever heard, listened to it a bunch of times over the years

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

That sounds vaguely familiar! I’ll investigate. 😊

barberblademaiden · 2 days ago

There are bags of acid and assassinations it was epic

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

You’ve given me reason to live.

tcr! tcr! · a day ago

Sweet! I’ll put it on now. Hopefully it’ll go with my glitter.

tcr! tcr! · a day ago

BOOBY TRAPPED LIGHTBULBS

barberblademaiden · a day ago

Dammit, you’re getting all sorts of ideas, aren’t you

tcr! tcr! · 24 hours ago

I definitely want to booby trap something now.

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sinceresarcasm · 2 days ago

I’ll have to check this one out!

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sadiebug92 · a day ago

Quitting college=best choice of my life. Quiting certain energy draining jobs…also very good choice. 🤷‍♀️ now I carhop during lunch hours, am available for my family and don’t feel like I’m dying on the inside.

tcr! tcr! · 24 hours ago

Good for you. Dying on the inside means we ain’t living inside or out.

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Maggie was painting yesterday

tcr! · 2 days ago

Maggie was painting yesterday

💙💜🖤🎨 #photos #maggie #artnews

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Momma J Momma J · 2 days ago

Is that a picture of the sky with star lights?

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

Not sure, but I assume so 😊

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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

What is the machine with the coil?

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

It’s a little contraption to hold a soldering gun 🤓

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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

Put me in mind of Vincent.

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

The painting, not the contraption.

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

I think I’m gonna blow the painting up to about 3’ and hang it on the wall.

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

But of course…

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Irene · a day ago

Kind of neat but different. I know it tells a story

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thewattsolak · a day ago

You have the same color walls we do!

tcr! tcr! · a day ago

Green is a great color for the dining room!

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diaries for August 2018 - now shipping!

tcr! · 3 days ago

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It’s that time of the month again!! 🎉

I have a handful left so you should go subscribe. It’s everything you know and love that comes out my mouth and in front of my camera.

#photos #diariesmagazine #forsale

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Monday cat naps

tcr! · 4 days ago

Monday cat naps

💤 #photos #cats #napsarespiritual

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Momma J Momma J · 4 days ago

Such a sweet kitty!

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Selfie in the stairwell

tcr! · 4 days ago

Selfie in the stairwell

Happy Monday, peeps! Let nothing hold you back.

#photos #selfies

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Momma J Momma J · 4 days ago

Infinity and beyond

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Jim J · 4 days ago

You’re not just another brick in the wall.

tcr! tcr! · 4 days ago

Pink Floyd keeps coming up in my daily life, The Wall in particular. I think the cosmos is telling me I need to go on tour. 🤔

Jim J · 3 days ago

How about a virtual tour, whatever that might be complete with spider, flower, and wall photographs all the while some sort of cosmic music is attempting to insinuate itself into the “poster”. Oh wait, if you put it on FB you would be “the poster.” Mind blown!

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Sep 16th, 2018 at 6:23:06 pm

tcr! · 5 days ago

Lightning bolt lawn mower

I guess it’s last call… ✂️🌿

#photos #homeimprovement

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tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

Also, let the record show I heard other mowers in the neighborhood. I wasn’t the only one who waited until the final, final notice.

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chrisrich · 5 days ago

Wussy suburbanite….

tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

Are you still at Riot Fest? 😉

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fiatlux423 · 5 days ago

I always liked mowing the lawn. I’ll do yours for $30

tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

I don’t mind it either unless I have laundry to do, groceries to get, bills to pay, and all that other bullshit… 🙄

Mitchell · 4 days ago

I don’t like mowing I wish my neighbor would just mow it everytime he mows his like one time he went over in our yard by a couple inches I was like yes he’s gonna mow it yeah no he was done after that strip of grass

Irene · 4 days ago

Yes, there’s always a thousand and one things to do all the time…

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Octopus tattoo, in color

tcr! · 6 days ago

Octopus colored tattoo 1 Octopus colored tattoo 2


Also…

Dont fucking touch the AC

PS- you can get your very own at Sink or Swim Tattoo. Just don’t get an octopus.

#photos #octopustatto

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ajc · 6 days ago

wowweeee

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Kelly K · 6 days ago

What other colors are you going to choose? It looks really good!

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

More pink, some purple, and some white for highlights.

Kelly K · 6 days ago

That will be really cool!

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cp1989 cp1989 · 6 days ago

Looks awesome!

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DP · 6 days ago

Nicely done meow

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Momma J Momma J · 6 days ago

That is one no two colorful tattoos! That looks like it would have been pretty painful!

tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

It’s just one tattoo, flipped in the mirror 😊

Momma J Momma J · 5 days ago

I told Angie and Morgan you had 2 huge tattoos - one on each arm!

tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

You were half right 😁

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Jim J · 5 days ago

That’s gotta hurt!

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Ryan Waters · 4 days ago

Well done

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Sara and I again at the tatto parlor

tcr! · 6 days ago

Sara at Sink or Swim Selfie at Sink or Swim Octopus shaded tattoo

#photos #sara #selfies #octopustatto

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bwm · 6 days ago

Cute haircut!

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sissyditch · 6 days ago

Which artist??

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tism tism · 6 days ago

#donotscratch #peelingfollows

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chrisrich · 4 days ago

Did the tattoo help with the mowing resentment?

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Milkweed opening

tcr! · 6 days ago

Milkweed opening

Happy Saturday, peeps! Starting today all of your dreams come true.

#photos #flowers #bugs

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tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

More milkweed opening

More milkweed opening
View full size →

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fiatlux423 · 6 days ago

Did you see ant monarchs?

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

I’ve never heard of such a critter

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cp1989 cp1989 · 6 days ago

Cool pics!

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

Thank you!

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Momma J Momma J · 6 days ago

Fluffy and pretty!

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

Yep! Just like me!

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prokop · 6 days ago

Love this pic.

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flood · 6 days ago

LOVE milk weed pods

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

Yep. I have them all over my backyard.

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Botsford · 6 days ago

Once again, love this!

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Sep 14th, 2018 at 4:42:39 pm

tcr! · 7 days ago

It's Friday mother-cluckers

This is my driving home from work, “it’s Friday mother-cluckers” look.

#photos #selfies

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Momma J Momma J · 7 days ago

You look pretty happy!

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

Pretty, pretty happy 😊

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