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Good things fall apart (stripped down)

tcr! · 7 hours ago

I shared this with Jimi earlier tonight. I sometimes question the musicianship of the modern era but when I hear tracks like this, I know it’s alive and well.

The simple acoustic riff, the harmonizing group vocals and piano… I love everything about it. If I could sing as he does I’d never talk.

And their off the street/don’t care/everyday slouching outfits and video shot phone style. And they pulled it off live.

I don’t relate with the lyrics in the here and now but there have been times when people hated me. And I didn’t understand why. And then I felt like I owed them an apology.

And of course my favorite lyric:

“I know I can be dramatic.”

#musicvideos

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Jun 25th, 2019 at 4:40:46 pm

tcr! · 12 hours ago

I gave the cat a piece of cheesy popcorn. She licked all the cheese off and went off to do whatever cats do when you don’t see them.

So I’m left in the kitchen with a piece of cheese-less, soggy, cat-licked popcorn.

How’s your Tuesday?

#cats

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Jun 25th, 2019 at 1:12:45 am

tcr! · a day ago

Mirah the cat in blue

I struggle in life more than I’d like to admit. I get frustrated when I need to tie my shoes. I’m restless just living.

I do better when I’m around people but am prone to isolate. I never think about drinking anymore but will make myself sick on licorice.

If I don’t have a big art project in the works I don’t feel complete. I’ll often burn through months building and then burn myself out with the pens and the paints. Then I’ll only want to play video games for weeks on end.

I brush my teeth two to three times a day and then rinse with peroxide. And then use my water pick with three fingers of alcoholic mouthwash in the reservoir. I’m interested in thoroughness.

I don’t like that I can never get the fan oscillation just right and will often wonder what I’m supposed to be doing in life. Because so far I feel like I get really close but the finish line is for those other guys.

It’s like practicing for a play, memorizing all the lines, rehearsing every morning, afternoon, and night. And then when the curtains open only a few people have shown up.

I put on Ludovico or baroque so I can listen while falling asleep. Then I won’t think and will drift off to soothing piano keys and calming violins.

But I think anyway. I write notes like these in my phone. Sometimes they’re spiritual and fruity. Other times they’re not. The fan blows so loud I can’t hear the music.

And then the cat jumps on me and I get up and brush my teeth again.

I’m not even kidding.

#photos #cats #thestruggleisreal

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lovers.of.catsworld · a day ago

beautiful

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Soft Australian Liquorice

tcr! · a day ago

Soft Australian Liquorice

Sara got me these soft licorices for my birthday. They’re serious going to be the death of me.

Oh look, a bag of licorice. Delightful!

#photos #licorice

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Rich J · a day ago

People who don’t like licorice just don’t understand.

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Momma J Momma J · a day ago

Don’t eat too much black licorice in one day because it can Cause serious health issues. Or at least I have read that!

Sammons · a day ago

I have read that if you have high blood pressure and are taking medicine for it that black licorice will counter act the medicine!!

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The soul of the castle collapsed

tcr! · 2 days ago

The soul of the castle collapsed

There, I wrote another poem… ✍️

#wordsmith

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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · 2 days ago

Love this. I want to believe it’s in it’s infancy.

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

Kinda/sorta. I wrote the gist of it at least a month ago and I couldn’t really get it passed its current variation. It’s almost too structured.

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Swedish Days 2019 Ferris wheel ride

tcr! · 3 days ago

Swedish Days carnival Sara and I on the Ferris wheel Maggie on the Ferris wheel

I like to get on the Ferris wheel at least once per season.

💘 #photos #sara #maggie

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fivewayrack fivewayrack · 3 days ago

What smiles!

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seatreezntrails · 3 days ago

Darling couple!

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threecrates threecrates · 3 days ago

I must ride The Zipper tomorrow! I try to as many times as I can in the summer. It is a endangered carnival attraction and will soon be extinct.😞

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Keep living, peeps

tcr! · 5 days ago

Day before yesterday I posted

It seems as if there are almost too many things that we’ll never get over.

We just learn to live with them.

…and I’ve been thinking lots about that whole topic ever since.

Some of you may know this story and some may not.

I was married for a brief era in the mid 90s. My wife at the time was pregnant and she carried our baby the full nine months. When she was due we rushed to the hospital and then something went horribly wrong.

They took Kathy to another room and had me and her family over in some waiting area. I could hear the baby crying and crying. Medical staff was running back-and-forth. A lot of commotion for sure. And then it was over. The baby died 15 minutes or so after she was born.

The loss of a child, the unexpected death of a loved one, traumatic physical injury, those types of pains are things we never get over. They just become part of who we are. Our life stories shape us, define us. We are who we are because of what’s happened while we’ve been alive.

Every time I hear a story about a child dying it almost always makes me sad. It pulls at my heart strings because I can relate. I think about being in that hospital with Kathy in the middle of nowhere Iowa and the emotional earthquake that changed everything. And the aftershocks are still with me not because I haven’t prayed for acceptance or processed my grief. It’s because it’s part of my story now. There’s no getting over it. There was no quick solution for dealing with the flood of feelings that came afterward.

In related news I read once that our parents’ memories can be passed to us genetically. Not like vivid, detailed recollections but more subliminal feelings, maybe subtle intuitions. When I read the article I thought, “fuck… our experiences are literally fused into our DNA.”

My feelings of loss can even resurface unexpectedly when I’m having a great moment with Maggie. I always wanted to be a dad and my first chance was taken away from me. Abruptly. Am I going to get over that? No. Don’t ever ask someone to. Pain of that magnitude will stop when it’s done working you over. My part is just to process and carry on.

Sometimes life works out how we want and sometimes it doesn’t. But it’s never about the outcome. It’s about the experience. It’s the shifts in our soul that offer to make us bigger people. We learn how to love and support each other.

When we look back over our lifetimes they’ll be overflowing with memories. Some good, some great and some bad, and others horrible. That sudden death helped make me be the best dad that I can be for Maggie. I know that it has.

Maggie's Father's Day inscription

Don’t be quick to discard life defining moments. We need those experiences to build better lives in the here and now.

Keep living, peeps. Keep loving. No matter what. ❤️

#photos #maggie #advancedsoul #theleftovers

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tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

The other night Sara and I were watching The Leftovers, season 3 episode 4. Kevin says to Nora something along the lines of getting over her lost kids. And then last night we watched episode 6 and Kevin and his ex-wife Laurie were sharing memories of when they were married.

If you haven’t watched The Leftovers, you’re missing out.

pynn · 5 days ago

It’s the best show I’ve seen

tcr! tcr! · 4 days ago

Yep, I absolutely love it. Maybe it’s because I felt like I was losing my mind more than once. And then the Pixies playing over and over again, Where is my mind? 😊

pynn · 4 days ago

Truly the most sophisticated and insightful treatment of grief, loss, and identity ever to appear on the small screen.

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elaineorr · 5 days ago

Hugs. Thanks for sharing.

tcr! tcr! · 4 days ago

You are most welcome! Thanks for reading. And for the hug!

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Irene · 3 days ago

So very very sorry for your loss! Too many losses in our lives… You are such a beautiful person inside and out and have done a terrific job making Maggie beautiful inside and out! 🤗❤️

tcr! tcr! · 3 days ago

Thank you so much!

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Jun 19th, 2019 at 9:24:19 am

tcr! · 7 days ago

It seems as if there are almost too many things that we’ll never get over.

We just learn to live with them.

#lettherebehope

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tam.the.terrible · 7 days ago

We just have to try to not let those moments define us!

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

Definitely. For me, part of learning how to live with whatever thing means not letting it define who I am on a substantial level. But I can learn from it and maybe be a little bit nicer to the next guy or react a little differently in a similar situation. Fingers crossed 🤞😊

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fivewayrack fivewayrack · 7 days ago

Wise words. I understand that now more than ever.

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

For sure! It wasn’t an epiphany that I had myself until only recently in the cosmic scheme of things. 😎

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McQuaid · 6 days ago

Yes! If you can’t accept it, change it. If you can’t change it, let it go.

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Hater McGhray Hater McGhray · 6 days ago

There are a few things for sure.

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Rich J · 6 days ago

Somethings are harder to let go of than others. It often depends on how deep the roots of the hurt are. Time is the great healer of all wounds.

tcr! tcr! · 5 days ago

There’s a lot to be said for patience for sure

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A flock of Jonathans

tcr! · Jun 18, 2019 at 4:40 pm

Unfurl your wings and soar mighty and proud!

A flock of Jonathans A flock of Jonathans 2

#photos #advancedsoul #JLS

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angeline35 angeline35 · Jun 18, 2019 at 7:48 pm

glad you like it :)

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Jun 17th, 2019 at 9:05:26 pm

tcr! · Jun 17, 2019 at 9:05 pm

Sara Maggie and I playing Ticket to Ride

Sara, Maggie, and I playing Ticket to Ride… 🚂🚃💕

#photos #games

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Karly · Jun 18, 2019 at 8:16 am

Love that game!

tcr! tcr! · Jun 18, 2019 at 8:42 am

It’s pretty fun 😊

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Kelly K · Jun 18, 2019 at 9:49 pm

What is this game you speak of? 🤔

tcr! tcr! · 7 days ago

Ticket to Ride: “a cross-country train adventure where players collect cards of various types of train cars that enable them to claim railway routes connecting cities in various countries around the world.” I like it because it’s pretty low-key.

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