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Birthday Celebration XLVI

tcr! · May 30, 2018 at 7:32 pm

I’m having another party. You’re obviously invited. I know that it’s only nine days away but whatever, that’s how I do. If you can’t come, don’t worry there’ll be another. If you can come, that’s awesome!

Feel free to bring a guest or two or three. And your kids. Or not. If you don’t know me or my friends, come anyway. You’ll have fun.

I’ll probably make vegetarian chili and maybe will have a cake. I’ll have snacks and drinks, too. You can bring whatever you want. If you don’t know my house rules for alcohol, they go like this: you can bring a bottle of wine but no boxed wine. You can bring a bottle of your favorite stout but no six-packs. You get the idea.

I would rather skip the presents. I order enough shit from Amazon. Yes, I have a mini pirate telescope, a banana slicer, an otamatone, and so on.

I won’t make puppets this time because people around here aren’t into them I guess. I may force you to watch 1984’s Sixteen Candles since it’s a birthday movie.

#xlvi

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Stop Draggin’ My Heart Around by Stevie Nicks & Tom Petty

tcr! · May 30, 2018 at 3:09 pm

Audio (MP3): 20180530 - Stop Draggin' My Heart Around

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Do you ever wanna say, “fuck this workday” and then turn off your computer and give your nearest co-worker a high-five as you storm out the office door, then slide down the stairwell railing and hop in your car, then drive to Home Goods and get that stainless steel spatula you’ve had your eye on for the last two months, and then stop at the petshop and pick out a pair of award winning pups?

Then get an email alert on your work phone and throw the piece of shit out the passenger window, frisbee style while driving with your knees, the silverly spatula twinkling in your left hand and the fuzzy doggos under your right arm, all the while Stevie Nicks and Tom Petty’s Stop Draggin’ My Heart Around is blaring from your car stereo?

I thought so.

“Yeah, you buckle with the weight of the words.”

#musicvideos #tompetty #stevienicks #diariespodcast

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Baker Memorial - from the back

tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 8:42 pm

Baker Memorial United Methodist Church from the back

Baker Memorial United Methodist Church, one of my most favorite places.

#photos #bakermemorial

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Speaking of consequences and desperation

tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 2:30 pm

Audio (MP3): 20180529 - Speaking of consequences and desperation

Liquor store door

Alcoholics can related to this. I’m not sure if others will…

But one of the things that made it so easy for me to continue drinking was that I never had any real consequences. I never was in jail for more than a day or so, the bank never threatened to take my house. My jobs were always more than supportive and somehow I still have all my fingers and toes.

It’s not that I didn’t think about the consequences. I could think about them all day long, but if it were in my head that I was gonna drink, there was simply no stopping me. I didn’t resist at all. There was no debate, no trying to convince myself it was the wrong thing to do. I never tried to talk myself out of it. All of that internal yammering was too painful and willpower is nonexistent when I’m drinking. It was easier to just give in, give up, quit fighting a fight I’d never win.

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Momma J Momma J · May 29, 2018 at 3:36 pm

Were you ever drunk in front of me? If you were, I didn’t know it!

tcr! tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 3:42 pm

I doubt it. You’d have known. :)

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debbie · May 29, 2018 at 4:33 pm

Thank you for sharing this. I just sent it to someone who needs help!

tcr! tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 4:54 pm

Awesome! I wrote it for the people out there in despair.

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Cowan · May 29, 2018 at 5:39 pm

Very well stated

tcr! tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 6:49 pm

Thanks!

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Kelly K · May 29, 2018 at 7:15 pm

“€œBecause drunkenness is like a wet blanket over the fire, a soggy forcefield that keeps the inferno of reality from being real.” Beautifully said. Captures that feeling, that state dead on!

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jewel · May 29, 2018 at 8:51 pm

Alcoholics don’t play the tape through by choice. You quit drinking, so at some point you must have actually decided to stop and think before you took a drink. Good choice!!

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domo vitek · May 29, 2018 at 10:08 pm

This is so poignant and true. Bullseye! I found myself in every word. Thank you for sharing

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elaineorr · May 29, 2018 at 10:22 pm

Well put. Thanks.

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Mitchell · May 29, 2018 at 10:59 pm

Very insightful I needed to read that thank you for sharing

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Wilkins · May 29, 2018 at 11:27 pm

You have always been an old soul….even when you were young. You had the fortitude and the gift for seeing the outcome of your life if you remained in the direction you were heading. That gift enabled you to make decisions that prevented years of misery…..you never experienced too many bad things from your drinking……”yet”…..when you quit…. I assure you that if you would have kept using for long enough you would have experienced every one of them. I’ve seen people say I came into Alcoholics Anonymous too early, I didn’t suffer enough before I came in I had to go back out and try it again. The big book talks about going out and try and control drinking, it says if you can do it, then go right ahead, cuz you are not one of us. No, definitely not one of us if you can control you’re drinking. I remember an old saying I heard in Alcoholics Anonymous one time. They said I didn’t stop at Alcoholics Anonymous because it was the prettiest house on the street, I stopped because it was the last house on the street. That hit home with me because I tried everything, to be able to continue to drink, as I wanted to prove that it wasn’t the alcohol I had a problem with it was everybody else who was bothering me. You know there’s another saying in Alcoholics Anonymous. At first I took a drink, and then the drink took a drink, and then the drink took me. That’s how I describe my alcoholism. Thank God we don’t have to live that way anymore, is another great saying from alcoholics anonymous that I use quite often. :-)

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Botsford · May 30, 2018 at 9:35 am

What Kelly & Vanessa said! Well done my friend.

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Stink bug having a nap?

tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 8:58 am

Stink bug having a nap

#photos #inothernews #stinkbugs

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May 28th, 2018 at 11:43:27 am

tcr! · May 28, 2018 at 11:43 am

Facebook - create a fundraiser

FB, I’m not Ghandi over here.

#facebook

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Hater McGhray Hater McGhray · May 28, 2018 at 12:06 pm

I started one for you so you wouldn’t look like an asshole.

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tism tism · May 28, 2018 at 12:22 pm

GoFund his birthday. He needs pie and Hawaiian sweet bread!!!

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keamoose keamoose · May 28, 2018 at 12:23 pm

Those 200 lbs of tater tots aren’t going to fund themselves!

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tcr! tcr! · May 28, 2018 at 2:36 pm

You guys may know me too well

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tcr! tcr! · May 28, 2018 at 6:04 pm

I honestly don’t know what I would do with that.

tcr! tcr! · May 28, 2018 at 6:05 pm

Well, I could take out the neighbor’s dog that’s always barking 🤔

Hater McGhray Hater McGhray · May 28, 2018 at 6:11 pm

You told me you wanted to take it to the dunes. Are you begged me to post this so that people would buy it for you.

Hater McGhray Hater McGhray · May 28, 2018 at 6:13 pm

OK maybe that’s not totally true but we could take it to the dunes.

tcr! tcr! · May 29, 2018 at 8:52 am

That’d be fun! I’d like to work in a James and the Giant Peach scene in somehow if we could.

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keamoose keamoose · May 29, 2018 at 9:40 am

If the beach ball thing doesn’t pan out, please feel free to use my $11 for tacos.

tism tism · May 29, 2018 at 9:50 am

and my $10 for pie

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May 28th, 2018 at 10:44:34 am

tcr! · May 28, 2018 at 10:44 am

One thing I just realized on this 89°F morning: it’s never my idea to mow the yard.

#thestruggleisreal #fuckingyard

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Breakfast, peeps

tcr! · May 27, 2018 at 11:40 am

Breakfast peeps

Wheat toast, buttery. Idaho potatoes, browny. Scrambled eggs, cheesy.

🍽 #photos #breakfast

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Momma J Momma J · May 27, 2018 at 12:29 pm

Holy moly - looks scrumptious!

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blooming in the shade

tcr! · May 27, 2018 at 7:35 am

blooming in the shade

Happy Sunday, peeps. Try not to overbook. Keep the calendar light. Less things are better. Schedule downtime with your favorite people. Enjoy their company.

We’ll never find a better reason to live than enjoying people’s company. Make them feel extraordinary. Not the whole world, just the ones that count.

💜 #photos #flowers #advancedsoul #boatmoses

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heylinda heylinda · May 27, 2018 at 12:05 pm

Yes

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Momma J Momma J · May 27, 2018 at 12:20 pm

Thank you for the reminder - I tend to over book!

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Solo: A Star Wars Story - opening weekend

tcr! · May 26, 2018 at 7:16 pm

Maggie, Sara, and myself Solo: A Star Wars Story ticket

Definitely better than the Rogue One movie!

You should go, take your favorite peeps.

#photos #starwars

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