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Swedish Days 2019 Ferris wheel ride

tcr! · 3 days ago

Swedish Days carnival Sara and I on the Ferris wheel Maggie on the Ferris wheel

I like to get on the Ferris wheel at least once per season.

πŸ’˜ #photos #sara #maggie

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fivewayrack fivewayrack · 3 days ago

What smiles!

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seatreezntrails · 3 days ago

Darling couple!

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threecrates threecrates · 3 days ago

I must ride The Zipper tomorrow! I try to as many times as I can in the summer. It is a endangered carnival attraction and will soon be extinct.😞

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Keep living, peeps

tcr! · 4 days ago

Day before yesterday I posted

It seems as if there are almost too many things that we’ll never get over.

We just learn to live with them.

…and I’ve been thinking lots about that whole topic ever since.

Some of you may know this story and some may not.

I was married for a brief era in the mid 90s. My wife at the time was pregnant and she carried our baby the full nine months. When she was due we rushed to the hospital and then something went horribly wrong.

They took Kathy to another room and had me and her family over in some waiting area. I could hear the baby crying and crying. Medical staff was running back-and-forth. A lot of commotion for sure. And then it was over. The baby died 15 minutes or so after she was born.

The loss of a child, the unexpected death of a loved one, traumatic physical injury, those types of pains are things we never get over. They just become part of who we are. Our life stories shape us, define us. We are who we are because of what’s happened while we’ve been alive.

Every time I hear a story about a child dying it almost always makes me sad. It pulls at my heart strings because I can relate. I think about being in that hospital with Kathy in the middle of nowhere Iowa and the emotional earthquake that changed everything. And the aftershocks are still with me not because I haven’t prayed for acceptance or processed my grief. It’s because it’s part of my story now. There’s no getting over it. There was no quick solution for dealing with the flood of feelings that came afterward.

In related news I read once that our parents’ memories can be passed to us genetically. Not like vivid, detailed recollections but more subliminal feelings, maybe subtle intuitions. When I read the article I thought, “fuck… our experiences are literally fused into our DNA.”

My feelings of loss can even resurface unexpectedly when I’m having a great moment with Maggie. I always wanted to be a dad and my first chance was taken away from me. Abruptly. Am I going to get over that? No. Don’t ever ask someone to. Pain of that magnitude will stop when it’s done working you over. My part is just to process and carry on.

Sometimes life works out how we want and sometimes it doesn’t. But it’s never about the outcome. It’s about the experience. It’s the shifts in our soul that offer to make us bigger people. We learn how to love and support each other.

When we look back over our lifetimes they’ll be overflowing with memories. Some good, some great and some bad, and others horrible. That sudden death helped make me be the best dad that I can be for Maggie. I know that it has.

Maggie's Father's Day inscription

Don’t be quick to discard life defining moments. We need those experiences to build better lives in the here and now.

Keep living, peeps. Keep loving. No matter what. ❀️

#photos #maggie #advancedsoul #theleftovers

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tcr! tcr! · 4 days ago

The other night Sara and I were watching The Leftovers, season 3 episode 4. Kevin says to Nora something along the lines of getting over her lost kids. And then last night we watched episode 6 and Kevin and his ex-wife Laurie were sharing memories of when they were married.

If you haven’t watched The Leftovers, you’re missing out.

pynn · 4 days ago

It’s the best show I’ve seen

tcr! tcr! · 4 days ago

Yep, I absolutely love it. Maybe it’s because I felt like I was losing my mind more than once. And then the Pixies playing over and over again, Where is my mind? 😊

pynn · 4 days ago

Truly the most sophisticated and insightful treatment of grief, loss, and identity ever to appear on the small screen.

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elaineorr · 4 days ago

Hugs. Thanks for sharing.

tcr! tcr! · 4 days ago

You are most welcome! Thanks for reading. And for the hug!

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Irene · 2 days ago

So very very sorry for your loss! Too many losses in our lives… You are such a beautiful person inside and out and have done a terrific job making Maggie beautiful inside and out! πŸ€—β€οΈ

tcr! tcr! · 2 days ago

Thank you so much!

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Photograph by Def Leppard

tcr! · May 16, 2019 at 10:00 am

On Tuesday Maggie and I went over to her mom’s apartment so Maggie could run in and grab her dress shoes for her choir concert. On the way we were rocking out in the truck as we do, listening to Photograph by Def Leppard.

As we pulled into the parking lot Joe Elliot was singing “you got some kinda hold on me, you’re all wrapped up in mystery” and Phil Collen hammered out his barred chords.

It was early evening, sunny outside, we had the windows down. It was perfect.

After I pulled up to the front of the building, Maggie hopped out, walked about three feet, and then stopped.

Then she turned around, came back to the truck, and said through the open window, “dad, you may want to turn the music down.”

πŸŽ™ 🎸 #musicvideos #defleppard #maggie

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jdeja · May 16, 2019 at 1:47 pm

He was on PBS last night, great interview!

tcr! tcr! · May 16, 2019 at 2:40 pm

I’ll have to look it up

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Maggie’s backpack with keychain

tcr! · May 14, 2019 at 9:18 am

Maggies backpack

Maggie’s had my keychain on her backpack since at least Fall of 2017.

It’s the little things that people do that mean the most… ❀️

#photos #maggie

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Momma J Momma J · May 14, 2019 at 10:38 am

She loves you! Her back pack is very eye catching

tcr! tcr! · May 14, 2019 at 4:44 pm

It’s my favorite backpack of hers for sure!

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After-movie thoughts

tcr! · Mar 23, 2019 at 3:21 pm

After movie thoughts

Maggie: when you get done watching superhero movies do you ever just want to punch somebody?

Me: every single time. πŸ‘Š

#maggie #captainmarvel

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A tale of Campana and Rapunzel

tcr! · Mar 2, 2019 at 1:52 pm

A tale of Campana and Rapunzel

I was driving my youngest daughter and her friend over to yet another of friend’s house moments ago.

As we drove by the Campana building I offhandedly remarked, “if I had some spare change I’d buy that building and have a fireman pole installed at the top of the tower down to the ground floor.”

My daughter and her friend responded only with silence as 101.9 continued to play whatever it plays in the background.

Feeling slightly slighted I continued, “do either of you have any thoughts on this gravitational installation?”

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threecrates threecrates · Mar 2, 2019 at 3:09 pm

❀️❀️❀️

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Cheers and pizza right from the box

tcr! · Feb 22, 2019 at 6:12 pm

My pizza box Maggie with pizza box Cheers on the TV

Maggie and I didn’t get home until after 6pm so this is how we’re doing dinner.

πŸ»πŸ• #photos #maggie #pizza #cheers

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topherabrown · Feb 22, 2019 at 6:28 pm

Dude I have to have my nightly dose of Cheers right now. Can’t get enough

tcr! tcr! · Feb 22, 2019 at 6:38 pm

Taking a break from your worries sure would help a lot… 🎹 🎢

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weddle · Feb 22, 2019 at 6:35 pm

I don’t see a problem with that AND banana peppers are my favorite

tcr! tcr! · Feb 22, 2019 at 6:38 pm

They’re a hard to beat pepper!

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Kris HB · Feb 22, 2019 at 8:08 pm

Damn,, my heart bleeds for ya . I had cold..something??

ready to eat with knife and fork

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Sammons · Feb 22, 2019 at 10:09 pm

The best kind of dinner!

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One more Christmas party

tcr! · Dec 28, 2018 at 6:12 pm

One more Christmas party

…for Maggie and her friends and this year will be on the books πŸŽ„πŸ“šπŸ‘

#photos #christmas #maggie

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Momma J Momma J · Dec 28, 2018 at 11:04 pm

Fun times!

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Maggie at the piano

tcr! · Dec 14, 2018 at 8:50 pm

Maggie at the piano

Maggie at the school variety show playing the piano and singing Elvis’ Can’t Help Falling In Love.

πŸ’˜ 🎹 #photos #maggie

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Paula Gauger · Dec 14, 2018 at 9:57 pm

I was there! I thought I recognized her name in the program. My boyfriend’s daughter was one of the emcees!

tcr! tcr! · Dec 15, 2018 at 8:10 am

I thought I saw you!

Paula Gauger · Dec 15, 2018 at 9:43 am

Yep! Me, my boyfriend, and his Mom. Friday night excitement. Haha!

Momma J Momma J · Dec 15, 2018 at 9:00 pm

I’m anxious to hear her play! And sing! πŸŽΆπŸ‘πŸ’–πŸ‘β˜ƒοΈ

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Irene · Dec 15, 2018 at 7:26 am

No recording? 😞

tcr! tcr! · Dec 15, 2018 at 8:11 am

I have video but she wouldn’t be thrilled if I posted it on social media. 😊

Irene · Dec 15, 2018 at 8:15 am

Gotcha! I really kind of figured that… you can messenger me 😁

Irene · Dec 15, 2018 at 8:17 am

Elvis was my favorite!!

jocelynzoey · Dec 16, 2018 at 6:48 am

Can you send me the video please?

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glenn.cremer glenn.cremer · Dec 15, 2018 at 9:29 am

I didn’t know she played piano

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Dec 7th, 2018 at 1:56:11 pm

tcr! · Dec 7, 2018 at 1:56 pm

I just printed a four page document from the Geneva School District regarding the ongoing teacher’s strike in Geneva. I asked Maggie to read and condense into a two paragraph written summary. I figure she’s been off school from the strike for over a week, she needed an assignment.

Hilarity did not ensue when I gave her the homework.

#maggie #schoolnews

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sara sara · Dec 7, 2018 at 2:20 pm

You’re a monster

tcr! tcr! · Dec 7, 2018 at 2:23 pm

Yep πŸ‘Ή

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Engelhardt · Dec 7, 2018 at 4:58 pm

Throw it out and have her go to https://www.gea4students.org/ and watch Kevin Gannon’s videos. The BOE lies.

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