Peeps, in case you need a pick me up on this millionth gray day in a row, here’s these dudes.

Also, I put tater-tots in black bean quesadillas last night. FTW.

#photos #flowers

Xxxxx:

I’m having a problem importing this CSV.

Me:

Could you send me the file so I can have a look?

Xxxxx:

It’s big! Do you still want me to send it?

Me to myself:

On second thought, my day will be a lot easier if you didn’t send it. We could pretend like this whole conversation never happened. You can go on playing your cat and mouse games with the other poor saps who dare to have a conversation with…

Xxxxx:

Here’s the big file.

Me:

That’s the XLS file. You originally said you were having problems with the CSV.

Xxxxx:

No, I’m having problems with the Excel. I’ve attached the ZIP file.

Me:

Loses all hope for humanity. Deletes conversation. Closes laptop. Sets it on fire.. 🔥🔥

#worknews #allislost

#email #socialproblems

Audio (MP3): 20181001 - Dedicated and duplicated prayers

When I’m around you guys it’s easy to be my best self.

I would almost say that it comes naturally. I don’t even think about it.

But there are other times when I’m around other people when there’s nothing easy about being a good person. It takes 100% of my concentration. It takes dedicated and duplicated prayers. It takes front-burner, fore-thought action.

It takes getting to know and being comfortable with my anger beforehand so it’s not overwhelming when I’m around the jerks who live only in their own worlds, who live from only their own point of view.^[1]

It takes regular and routine reseting so I don’t get lost in the chaos. It takes pretending to care even when I honestly don’t.

Because at the end of the day people are going to hurt us. They’re going to give us reasons to be angry. The trick is to love them anyway. At all costs.

#advancedsoul #diariespodcast

1. Granted I do, too, at times but somewhere along the way I was clued into thinking about you guys, too. Your wants, your needs, your feelings before letting what I want become too much of a priority. ↑

For those who have not seen or do not know…

In related news: Sep 2nd, 2018 at 9:59:22 am →

#memes

Do you ever lacerate your toe on an electrical outlet and then think to yourself:

Boy, I’m a dumbass. Nobody lacerates their toe anymore.

I didn’t think so.

#socialproblems

Sara and I are eating at Eddie Gaedel Pub & Grill in Elburn based on a previous recommendation. We’re just getting started on their Impossible Burgers.

So my next question is: what do you guys do in Elburn after that? This is not a joke. What’s there to do?

#photos #goodeats

Me: Would you drive to Itasca every day for work?

Sara: I would. It would probably take you 45 minutes to an hour. Did you map it?

Me: I have a general idea of where the city is. Personal experience is always better though. 😊

Me: “Would you do this?” trumps all maps, jobs, restaurants, etc

Sara: Yep. I would totally drive an hour for a good job but I’m not you. Traffic would probably be the worst when you got on the highway, which would be the last 15 minutes or so.

Me: Are you saying I have a hard time behind the wheel?

Sara: “Commuting to West Chicago wouldn’t be bad.”

Me: Hahahaaa! Oh yeah.

Sara: I wouldn’t use commute and West Chicago in the same sentence 😊

Me: Gotcha. I regularly commute to my bedroom and boy, lemme tell ya…

Sara: If it was a job you’d like, then I’d at least apply. You can always judge the commute when you go for the interview

Me: Yep. I just applied for it. It’s another with that same company that pulled the one job listing down two months after I went to apply.

Me: I’m slow but effective.

Me: Or something.

Sara: Thoughtful and reflective 😊

Me: 😊

Me: I’m gonna run my errands

Sara: Have fun!

Me: Desperately awaiting our next rendezvous 😘

Sara: 😘

Sara: 😍

#relationships #goals

🐈 #photos #cats

Audio (MP3): 20180929 - Almost empty McDonalds

I’m sitting in the McDonalds on State Street in Geneva. Because Egg McMuffins.

This is also the place where Maggie’s mom and I told Maggie that we were getting divorced. It was the most painful conversation I’ve ever had. The most painful day ever. Watching her little nine year old face panic as the conversation unfolded.

It wasn’t a long conversation but it lasted forever to me.

A therapist said to do it in public so the hurt would live outside the home. Sometimes breakups really better are in public. Sometimes it’s the better way out.

And as we were driving back home, the three of us, I thought to myself, “I’m never going to that fucking place again.”

But here I am. Cuppa years later.

Because one of the best things I learned was to “give it some time.”

For as long as it takes. Don’t make up your mind. Just put it down. Don’t rush healing. Don’t rush the feeling. Let the pain fade. It will if we don’t force its end.

#photos #protip #diariespodcast