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like a fatalistic mist

tcr! · Mar 25, 2020 at 8:56 am

3:46 am: God, I am so sick of being awake.

6:37 am: Just because you stop talking about things doesn’t mean everything’s okay.

Black and white light reflection

An x-boss of mine and I would argue and argue about things. And we’d argue about the same kinds of things over and over again. Architecture, database modeling, how to reply to emails. Crap that was important for sure and some crap that wasn’t.

For the longest time I would back down because he was my boss and I worked for him, even if I felt that he was in the wrong. He wasn’t the healthiest tool in the shed. Not saying that I am either but I do try in earnest to balance on the spiritual beam.

But somewhere along the way a switch flipped and I stopped caring about maintaining a happy, healthy relationship with that x-boss.

I heard on a podcast not long ago that “people typically don’t just snap, they slowly spiral down, and then eventually give up.”

Toward the end of my career with him, after we’d been arguing for a handful of minutes, we’d just stop. Because I wouldn’t back down when I thought he was wrong. And there would be no resolution or closure. Whatever difference we were having would just stay floating in the uneasy air, floating around the office like a fatalistic mist.

I can count at least three times I walked out during an argument with him, walked clear out of the office, shaking in anger. And it always almost infuriated me when he would come into work the next day and act like nothing was wrong. Blue skies abound. Like that nothing had happened, that the afternoon before we weren’t both red faced yelling.

I don’t know about you guys but I’m not the kind of person that can have a healthy relationship with someone if there isn’t closure. I know this stems from being too drunk and too passive for too long. I just can’t do it anymore. Untied shoes will trip me every time.

Yeah, I can get along, maintain peace, be professional but fuck me being cordial when someone’s being outright jerky. It’s not about carrying resentments either. It’s about setting healthy boundaries. It’s me not participating in somebody’s stubborn, close minded bullshit. It’s about keeping my distance because assholes abound.

If we don’t resolve our differences in the here and now, our personal connection will be broken. Not permanently, but presently. I subscribe to forgiveness and all that so I’m always willing to move forward with peaceful resolution.

And I don’t like admitting when I’m wrong for sure. But when it comes to relationships and people that I care about my pride isn’t that important.

It’s worth swallowing… 👍👍

#worknews #relationships #closure

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Momma J Momma J · Mar 25, 2020 at 2:59 pm

I agree with everything you said

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tcr! tcr! · Mar 25, 2020 at 7:00 pm

I hope so 😉

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angeline35 angeline35 · 6 days ago

I love the statement “assholes abound”. I took more from it than just that though. Lol

tcr! tcr! · 6 days ago

Good! It was meant for the taking ❤️

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Nov 18th, 2019 at 10:41:53 am

tcr! · Nov 18, 2019 at 10:41 am

Overheard just now at work…

I lost your bicycle. And I changed clothes.

🚲🕺 #worknews

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tism tism · Nov 18, 2019 at 12:45 pm

“to hide my identity. Oh crap, I just told you.”

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Multiple selections with Sublime Text

tcr! · Mar 26, 2019 at 1:50 pm

If your code editor can’t do this you’re missing out. Multi-line text editing in all its glory: 70+ lines at once.

Sublime Text is worth every penny.

Sublime multi line editing - MP4

And yes, this kinda thing is what I do all day.

#videos #worknews

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edox edox · Mar 26, 2019 at 1:57 pm

Sublime?

tcr! tcr! · Mar 26, 2019 at 1:58 pm

Yep! It’s worth every penny. https://www.sublimetext.com

edox edox · Mar 26, 2019 at 2:00 pm

I have used Notepad++ for years at work but this feature has slowly been pulling me to install sublime and convert.

tcr! tcr! · Mar 26, 2019 at 3:58 pm

Definitely give it a try. And have a good look at the keyboard shortcuts. They’re where all the power is.

edox edox · Mar 26, 2019 at 4:34 pm

I will.

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CE Garcia · Mar 26, 2019 at 4:47 pm

Cool! Been using vim for years and can very likely do the same with Visual Block. Can’t really justify using any other editor since it’s been around since 1976 and it’s free!

tcr! tcr! · Mar 27, 2019 at 11:09 am

Hard to beat 1976!

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Momma J Momma J · Mar 26, 2019 at 4:56 pm

Ugh!

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heather heather · Mar 26, 2019 at 5:48 pm

I thought it was Notepad++ 😬

tcr! tcr! · Mar 27, 2019 at 11:11 am

I’ve never used Notepad++ since they don’t make it for Mac 😁

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Mar 1st, 2019 at 8:01:59 am

tcr! · Mar 1, 2019 at 8:01 am

Sometimes I check my email with dread. It’s so nice to feel the opposite afterward.

Me yesterday:

The website was timing out during upload but I’ve fixed this and also imported all four of your CE spreadsheets.

Client today:

I just made them all active! So exciting!

Thank you again! You are a Prince! ;->

Best way to start the workday, even better that it’s a Friday workday. 🎉

#worknews #lettherebehope

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Oct 15th, 2018 at 6:50:37 pm

tcr! · Oct 15, 2018 at 6:50 pm

I don’t think I could ever work at a dry-cleaning shop. How could you not try on the clothes? After I’ve dry-cleaned them of course.

And to those who go to the dry-cleaners, I’m sorry I’ve given you something you probably didn’t want to think about.

#worknews #fashion

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Jul 23rd, 2018 at 10:09:22 am

tcr! · Jul 23, 2018 at 10:09 am

In August, we will provide you with more of the detail about how this exciting change will positively affect you.

Uh-huh. That’s what they all say but work changes are never exciting and they always affect me negatively.

#worknews #email

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Jul 3rd, 2018 at 8:26:28 am

tcr! · Jul 3, 2018 at 8:26 am

Client:

I would like you to implement X on my website.

Me:

Okay. Could you send me an example of X so I can review?

Client:

I would still like Y to work.

Me:

Adding X will not affect Y.

Client:

Okay, I didn’t know if you were going to throw away Y when implementing X.

Me:

Don’t worry, you asked for me to implement X so I won’t throw away Y.

#worknews

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Jun 11th, 2018 at 9:53:43 am

tcr! · Jun 11, 2018 at 9:53 am

I wish I had a job and I could just settle in to. It wouldn’t even have to be the greatest job. Just one I felt good about doing. Like this is what I’m gonna do the rest my life and I’m okay with that.

On my way to work I drive by a tire shop every morning. I see the guys inside, drinking coffee, rolling their tires, and I’m somewhat jealous. Seems to me to be pretty carefree.

I don’t know, maybe I’m romanticizing the guys and their wrenches but they never seem too stressed in the morning.

Jimi told me once that if you can stand going to your job you’re doing better than most.

Once you tune in to “this sucks”, you’ll be miserable evermore doing that.

#worknews

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Odd height window

tcr! · Jun 5, 2018 at 1:59 pm

Odd height window

In other work related news, there’s an office in my building that has a long window that’s at an odd level. I enjoy waving to them as I make my regular building rounds.

I kinda feel like your happy neighborhood shark when I do. 🦈 👋

#photos #worknews

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keamoose keamoose · Jun 5, 2018 at 4:11 pm

I’ve suggested several times that we all wear tinfoil shark fins on our heads when walking around the cube farm. No takers yet.

tcr! tcr! · Jun 5, 2018 at 5:38 pm

I take it! You go first.

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Hooper · Jun 5, 2018 at 6:18 pm

Landshark!

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Karly · Jun 6, 2018 at 10:42 am

Maybe an impromptu hand puppet show?

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May 7th, 2018 at 3:01:27 pm

tcr! · May 7, 2018 at 3:01 pm

I have ONE email in my work Inbox and it’s one I’m waiting on a reply to.

I think this means that my work week is done.

🎉 #worknews

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