Nope, all on topic. I have a hard time knowing in the heat of the moment when I should act on the indignation or not. On one hand it’s good for me to pause and center and then on the other I often need the moment’s heat to stand up and be counted.
I’ve come to realize that in the moment I’ll never “always” be able to do the “right” thing. Some carnivals I get a teddy bear and some I lose my ticket.
The thing is, I can snark like nobody’s business. I’ve heard that “Irish diplomacy” is the ability to tell someone to go to hell and they look forward to the trip.
I learned a lesson about being unnecessarily discourteous, and I may have learned it too well. Sometimes people really need to know they’re an asshole. I think sometimes that I’m doing just as much a disservice when I ignore idiocy as when I expose it. If I ignore too much I’m giving it the OK.
I’m probably off topic.
Self-righteous indignation is the most delicious drug I’ve ever taken. It has nearly always been the straw that broke my back.
You are. Tell a person asking a question about the 9th step that garbage? You should be ashamed of yourself. You’re a troll of the worst order, sir. A misogynistic, miserable man who isn’t here to offer anything but nonsense.
For me my ninth steps usually consist of me doing something uncomfortably nice and selfless for/with the person and opening up a dialogue with them about my character defects and how I was wrong. No “sorry” passes my lips.
I’m in the “I was wrong. How can I make it right?” camp, although I think abolishing “sorry” from our vocabulary is a bit much.
I very much appreciated a couple thoughts towards the end of that writing. The idea that the program of AA is the 12 steps gets overlooked quite a bit in my opinion. Many people say they’ve tried AA, i.e. attended meetings. In my experience, attending meetings was not trying AA. I spent months attending meetings before I worked the steps and I didn’t get sober. In fact, I often stopped at a liquor store on the way home from meetings. No human power can relieve my alcoholism. Simply being in the room with those who are recovering is not sufficient for me. I also agree that my job in AA is to share my experience, how I did it, and not tell others how they should do it.
I was told and have heard more than a few times that it’s best to explain the situation, and then ask for the person’s forgiveness. This puts the result, or power of the action in their hands. I then have to accept the results.