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Commenting on You won't feel any better

tcr! tcr! · Jun 14, 2017 at 10:37 am

Nope, all on topic. I have a hard time knowing in the heat of the moment when I should act on the indignation or not. On one hand it’s good for me to pause and center and then on the other I often need the moment’s heat to stand up and be counted.

I’ve come to realize that in the moment I’ll never “always” be able to do the “right” thing. Some carnivals I get a teddy bear and some I lose my ticket.


Commenting on You won't feel any better

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · Jun 14, 2017 at 10:25 am

“Oh Senator? Love your suit!”
—H. Lector


Commenting on You won't feel any better

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · Jun 14, 2017 at 10:11 am

These fucktards I work with posted something to the effect of how voting for Trump is like listening to Country Music backwards: Got his car back, His horse back, his job back and his country back.

I want to point out that he did not lose his car, job or country and he’s never had a horse.

But he’s not my monkey, and it isn’t my circus.


Commenting on You won't feel any better

jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · Jun 14, 2017 at 10:08 am

This is not necessarily a comment on the topic.

The thing is, I can snark like nobody’s business. I’ve heard that “Irish diplomacy” is the ability to tell someone to go to hell and they look forward to the trip.

I learned a lesson about being unnecessarily discourteous, and I may have learned it too well. Sometimes people really need to know they’re an asshole. I think sometimes that I’m doing just as much a disservice when I ignore idiocy as when I expose it. If I ignore too much I’m giving it the OK.

I’m probably off topic.

Self-righteous indignation is the most delicious drug I’ve ever taken. It has nearly always been the straw that broke my back.


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tcr! tcr! · Jun 14, 2017 at 10:02 am

Good point. I’m sure when the emotions stop swirling I’ll feel a bit of gratitude for taking a higher road.


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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · Jun 14, 2017 at 9:52 am

I like to remember that nearly everything looks different from a distance. “In the long run…”


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tcr! tcr! · Jun 14, 2017 at 9:07 am

Okay, it looked like a silhouette on my phone. Not so much on my Mac. 🤔


Commenting on Should I say "I'm sorry" during the Ninth Step?

tcr! tcr! · Jun 12, 2017 at 9:01 am

I regularly didn’t pay attention to myself. Working the steps is one of those times where I definitely should.


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tcr! tcr! · Jun 11, 2017 at 8:29 am

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Anonymous · Jun 8, 2017 at 3:40 pm

You are. Tell a person asking a question about the 9th step that garbage? You should be ashamed of yourself. You’re a troll of the worst order, sir. A misogynistic, miserable man who isn’t here to offer anything but nonsense.


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Anonymous · Jun 8, 2017 at 3:27 pm

Wow. That’s harsh.


Commenting on Should I say "I'm sorry" during the Ninth Step?

Anonymous · Jun 8, 2017 at 2:42 pm

God you are a jerkoff.


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jimi hindrance experience jimi hindrance experience · Jun 8, 2017 at 9:18 am

you got to tell me, graham sexton
why are the wicked so strong
how do the angels get to sleep
when the devil leaves his porchlight on
—-tom waits


Commenting on Should I say "I'm sorry" during the Ninth Step?

tcr! tcr! · Jun 8, 2017 at 6:59 am

Interesting point of view :)


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Anonymous · Jun 7, 2017 at 4:01 pm

If alcoholism is a disease then why should I apologize for what I’ve done. Plus I think making amends isn’t sincere and the real reason people do a ninth step is for self preservation.


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oxygenvoyage · Jun 7, 2017 at 2:08 pm

For me my ninth steps usually consist of me doing something uncomfortably nice and selfless for/with the person and opening up a dialogue with them about my character defects and how I was wrong. No “sorry” passes my lips.


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5timechamps · Jun 7, 2017 at 1:22 pm

I’m in the “I was wrong. How can I make it right?” camp, although I think abolishing “sorry” from our vocabulary is a bit much.
I very much appreciated a couple thoughts towards the end of that writing. The idea that the program of AA is the 12 steps gets overlooked quite a bit in my opinion. Many people say they’ve tried AA, i.e. attended meetings. In my experience, attending meetings was not trying AA. I spent months attending meetings before I worked the steps and I didn’t get sober. In fact, I often stopped at a liquor store on the way home from meetings. No human power can relieve my alcoholism. Simply being in the room with those who are recovering is not sufficient for me. I also agree that my job in AA is to share my experience, how I did it, and not tell others how they should do it.


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kickaha2 · Jun 7, 2017 at 11:48 am

I was told and have heard more than a few times that it’s best to explain the situation, and then ask for the person’s forgiveness. This puts the result, or power of the action in their hands. I then have to accept the results.


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dub-squared · Jun 7, 2017 at 11:27 am

Amend doesn’t mean to apologize, it means to change. You don’t apologize the constitution, you amend it. That is how I was taught and it helped.


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JillybeanTX · Jun 7, 2017 at 10:31 am

Great answer! I have never heard that one but I like it!