Audio (MP3): 20181101 - Ice cream anxiety
If we’re at a social gathering and it feels like I snub you that’s because I’m not a social butterfly. I’m more like a social moth. My wings are dusty. I check the doors to be sure they lock. I have debates with myself about what I’m supposed to do next. I have the social skills of a turtle. Just give me some lettuce.
Large groups of people don’t necessarily make me nervous, just uncomfortable. I don’t like people sitting or standing behind me. I don’t like it to the point where I’ll change seats. If I can’t see everything I feel somewhat flustered. I like to keep an eye on things.
That might sound cliche or overused or whatever but it’s because it’s a real thing that affects more people than it should.
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asquared01 · Nov 1, 2018 at 10:33 am
I can relate to so much of what you described. I suppose for me it’s social anxiety. I don’t like going to parties, I don’t like large groups of people that I don’t know and it’s even worse if everyone knows each other and I’m the new person. We have an invitation to a Thanksgiving party we haven’t replied to b/c of my anxiety….I’ve only met the couple once. John knows the husband well but I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a bunch of people I’ve never met. Then I wonder why I don’t have friends…this type of thing right here. :(
I set time limits for how long I’m willing stay somewhere. With a group of people I don’t know, that limit would most likely be 15 minutes. Then I can leave everybody murmuring amongst themselves.. “who was that dashing man in the golden hockey mask?”
asquared01 · Nov 1, 2018 at 1:05 pm
If you’re at least making a 15 minute appearance, you’re a better person than me. I’ll be replying “can’t go” to that invite. 😬
How about you guys go for 10 minutes? Drop off a can of that cranberry sauce that makes people swoon? And then announce boldly to crowd, “we’re taking turkey pot pies to the homeless shelter on 5th Avenue.” Nobody would blink as you slammed the door on your way out.
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Yes, exactly.
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Yep
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prokop · Nov 1, 2018 at 11:24 am
Get out of my head. Haha.
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fleming · Nov 1, 2018 at 12:58 pm
I know, right??!! I think there are a lot of us out there, just “faking it till we make it”!
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Mona · Nov 1, 2018 at 1:49 pm
Story of my life.
One time when I was in college I went up to give a speech. In front of the whole class. 20 seconds in I said, “I can’t do this.” And then I went and sat down. 👍
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jenkins_arts · Nov 1, 2018 at 2:01 pm
Snazzy. That’s a technical term.
As is fancy!
jenkins_arts · Nov 2, 2018 at 5:56 pm
Yup
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Mitchell · Nov 1, 2018 at 6:30 pm
Totally get it uncle Trav I am very much like you believe it or not I looked up/still look up to you for years
Love you man!
Mitchell · Nov 2, 2018 at 6:45 pm
Love you too unc
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Incredibly written as usual pal. Love this! ❤️
Thanks man! 🍬
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It happens to me out of the blue. Everything can be ok and suddenly I’m overwhelmed with panic. I’m never aware of “what happened” if anything.
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Might be a short circuit. Of course I’m not a doctor or biologist.
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