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oxygenvoyage
· Jun 7, 2017 at 2:08 pm
For me my ninth steps usually consist of me doing something uncomfortably nice and selfless for/with the person and opening up a dialogue with them about my character defects and how I was wrong. No “sorry” passes my lips.
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5timechamps
· Jun 7, 2017 at 1:22 pm
I’m in the “I was wrong. How can I make it right?” camp, although I think abolishing “sorry” from our vocabulary is a bit much.
I very much appreciated a couple thoughts towards the end of that writing. The idea that the program of AA is the 12 steps gets overlooked quite a bit in my opinion. Many people say they’ve tried AA, i.e. attended meetings. In my experience, attending meetings was not trying AA. I spent months attending meetings before I worked the steps and I didn’t get sober. In fact, I often stopped at a liquor store on the way home from meetings. No human power can relieve my alcoholism. Simply being in the room with those who are recovering is not sufficient for me. I also agree that my job in AA is to share my experience, how I did it, and not tell others how they should do it.
Commenting on Should I say "I'm sorry" during the Ninth Step?
kickaha2
· Jun 7, 2017 at 11:48 am
I was told and have heard more than a few times that it’s best to explain the situation, and then ask for the person’s forgiveness. This puts the result, or power of the action in their hands. I then have to accept the results.
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dub-squared
· Jun 7, 2017 at 11:27 am
Amend doesn’t mean to apologize, it means to change. You don’t apologize the constitution, you amend it. That is how I was taught and it helped.
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JillybeanTX
· Jun 7, 2017 at 10:31 am
Great answer! I have never heard that one but I like it!
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tcr!
· Jun 7, 2017 at 8:58 am
That’s awesome.
Commenting on Should I say "I'm sorry" during the Ninth Step?
Anonymous
· Jun 7, 2017 at 8:11 am
I always liked the saying that an apology is simply a notice that an amend is coming.
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jimi hindrance experience
· Jun 7, 2017 at 12:44 am
My sponsor said, “If you feel like you’ve skimped on the steps, you have.”
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tcr!
· Jun 6, 2017 at 8:50 am
Haha!
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jimi hindrance experience
· Jun 5, 2017 at 10:40 pm
When I was about 10, I named my bike. It was the “Rock Chopper Six”. I don’t know why six was included. No records exist for models one through five. I drove that fucker over many Viet Cong, Germans, wild animals and nuns. I rode it up Sister Rosalia’s ass. In a totally non-sexual but enormously satisfying way. Satisfying for Sister.
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tcr!
· Jun 4, 2017 at 9:24 pm
I give it a B+ because I’m sick of the dark, sans-color visuals some movies are all about these days.
Plus Captain Kirk was in it. Not actually Kirk but more or less the same character.
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jimi hindrance experience
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tcr!
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tcr!
· Jun 1, 2017 at 4:35 pm
Totally with ya… so long as I don’t go out of my way, they obviously want me to see it.
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tcr!
· Jun 1, 2017 at 9:21 am
Thankies! 😊
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jimi hindrance experience
· Jun 1, 2017 at 8:03 am
I’ve done this and talked about it for years. I liked to take a walk. I’m not weird about it: If their drapes are open and it can be seen from the street or walk, it’s fair game. I won’t go in a yard or stand on the hydrant or anything. There are traditions to be upheld.
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Anonymous · Jun 7, 2017 at 4:01 pm
If alcoholism is a disease then why should I apologize for what I’ve done. Plus I think making amends isn’t sincere and the real reason people do a ninth step is for self preservation.