Audio (MP3): 20180919 - The notion that I can quit
My favorite Freakonomomics podcast is from a few years back. It’s beautifying titled, The Upside of Quitting.
It’s also the only podcast I’ve listened to more than twice. The episode is one of those things that changed everything. It’s become part of my spiritual condition. The notion that I can quit has become part of who I am.
We’re all familiar with the dogmatic mantra:
Winners never quit.
That’s all fine and good if we play football but not if we’re dying inside because our life is horrible.
Let me give you three examples:
- If we’re in a relationship where we feel suffocated or maybe where we feel lonely, we need to quit. Get out of it. Things aren’t going to change or get any better just because we’re sad.
- If we go to a job every morning and feel miserable, we need to quit. Desperately pleading to the almighty or flat out ignoring the crisis won’t make our misery stop. It’ll be on our minds tomorrow. Before we even get to work.
- If mowing our yard is simply dreadful, we need to quit cutting the grass and get somebody else to do it. Spending a Saturday with yardwork nagging at our soul will only end up ruining our whole weekend.
Suffering isn’t a badge of honor or something to be proud of. It’s bullshit. And we won’t sleep any better until we quit believing that anything but first place will do.
There’s something to be said for loyalty and persistence for sure but quitting when the situation demands it is something that’s often overlooked or ignored altogether. Sometimes it’s easier to just stay stuck than revolt. But staying stuck is not something we’ll ever want to tell our grandkids about. Wouldn’t it be grand to tell them the story of the great revolution that made the world magical again?
Quitting is decisive and final.
It’s not fruity, metaphysical, or abstract. It’s concrete and effective. We feel release when we quit. All the hurt will stop.
Sometimes it takes time to quit, especially when we’re in the middle of something big or entangled in something painful. When I quit drinking it took months. Getting ready and absolutely wanting to quit was most of the battle.
The road we walk is ours. Our future is up to us and not our partner, not our boss, and not the dandelions. We don’t have to be along for just their ride.
And we have to firmly believe that we deserve nice things as well. I’m telling you now that you do. The moon and the stars are all hanging in the sky just for you.
Quit. What it that’s making you unhappy. Quit.
#photos #flowers #protip #freakonomics #diariespodcast
Not familiar with Freakonomics? Don’t worry it all began when… “New York journalist and author Stephen J. Dubner went to Chicago to write about award-winning economist Steven D. Levitt for The New York Times Magazine.” Find it on your local NPR station. ↑
I started wanting to quit drinking in June 2011. Needed to in August. Should have in December. And finally did in February. ↑
jimi hindrance experience · Sep 19, 2018 at 8:38 pm
tcr! · Sep 19, 2018 at 8:45 pm
jimi hindrance experience · Sep 19, 2018 at 8:56 pm
Unreasonable Happiness is your birth right. It’s been credited to me but I heard it somewhere. Sitting with others of my ilk.
tcr! · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:04 pm
I often hear you say that in my head 😊
JJ · Sep 19, 2018 at 9:13 pm
Thanks for the tip… look forward to listening to on my a.m. drive.
tcr! · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:05 pm
Let me know what you think.
Botsford · Sep 19, 2018 at 9:42 pm
Boy what we do to quit, some of the hardest decisions I have ever made was just that!!! After all the agony the relief is so worth those good choices! Thanks for the reminder 😊
tcr! · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:05 pm
barberblademaiden · Sep 19, 2018 at 9:47 pm
Find the NPR This American Life episode about the New York super in the 70s. It’s the wildest thing I’ve ever heard, listened to it a bunch of times over the years
tcr! · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:07 pm
That sounds vaguely familiar! I’ll investigate. 😊
barberblademaiden · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:18 pm
There are bags of acid and assassinations it was epic
jimi hindrance experience · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:37 pm
You’ve given me reason to live.
barberblademaiden · Sep 20, 2018 at 10:07 am
Found it! https://www.thisamericanlife.org/323/the-super
tcr! · Sep 20, 2018 at 10:24 am
Sweet! I’ll put it on now. Hopefully it’ll go with my glitter.
tcr! · Sep 20, 2018 at 10:36 am
BOOBY TRAPPED LIGHTBULBS
barberblademaiden · Sep 20, 2018 at 2:21 pm
Dammit, you’re getting all sorts of ideas, aren’t you
tcr! · Sep 20, 2018 at 2:37 pm
I definitely want to booby trap something now.
sinceresarcasm · Sep 19, 2018 at 10:14 pm
I’ll have to check this one out!
sadiebug92 · Sep 20, 2018 at 12:03 pm
Quitting college=best choice of my life. Quiting certain energy draining jobs…also very good choice. 🤷♀️ now I carhop during lunch hours, am available for my family and don’t feel like I’m dying on the inside.
tcr! · Sep 20, 2018 at 2:40 pm
Good for you. Dying on the inside means we ain’t living inside or out.